What is your body language saying?
“Actions speak louder than words.”- Abraham Lincoln
Without so much as whispering a word you can scream a lot about your current state of mind.
For example: Are your arms crossed tightly over your chest and you are breathing hard? Chances are you are angry or frustrated about something.
Okay-#2: Are you sitting at your desk with a pen/pencil hanging out of your mouth while squinting at your computer screen? You are hyper-focused on whatever is in front of you.
And #3: Are you sitting in a meeting, slouched down in your seat, sighing heavily, and groaning? You are bored…BORED to tears.
Your body is giving away your secrets. Just thought you should know.
Okie-dokie! It’s that time again. Go hunt down your copy of Personal Branding for Dummies (A Wiley Brand), some yummies, and a cuppa something wet, and let’s get to it. Shall we?
Today we are talking about talking with your face and what it is screaming to everyone who sees it.
The face. My face. This is where I have issues. We know I have RBF (Resting-Bitch-Face for those in the back). To me, I am smiling and showing the would my sparkling personality through the joy beaming from every pore. What you see is…a snarling sea hag with a hangnail and hunger issues. I was once counselled on my face. How do I fix my genetics? So, to compensate for my lack of fun facial movements I use the rest of my body. I gesture a little bigger and laugh a bit more (even when it really isn’t funny), so that people feel more comfortable. It sucks but you learn what works. For those of you with a “normal face” it is still important to be aware of what it is saying without your permission. Wrangle in those eye rolls.
Eye contact shows your interest in the person and what they may be talking about. When the eye contact is missing it is construed as being rude or indifferent. Basically, if I’m not acknowledging you while you are speaking…I don’t like you or your topic of choice. Eye contact is important in business dealings. If a salesperson can’t look me in the eye while attempting to sell me something, chances are very high that I will walk out without buying.
Emotions. Some people wear them on their face like a layer of makeup. You can tell how they are feeling from the other side of the room. This is not always a good think. It’s like walking into the DMV…no one wants to be there, and it is evident EVERYWHERE- Sour Puss, Grumpy Gus, Pissy Krissy- RUN!!!
It is a good lesson to start paying attention to expressions. Learn the differences between a sleepy face and a bummed face. They are not the same thing.
If you are unsure of how the world sees you, ask a friend to video you during a casual conversation. Watch it together and have them point out times you looked a certain way. Learn how to control your facial muscles. See, when I smile, I feel like it is ear-to-ear but what others see is a minimal uptick on the outer edges of my lips. I must, to me, over exaggerate my smile to make sure people see it as such. RBF is a serious aliment. Feel sorry for those of us with this affliction. We are nice people with angry faces.
Polish your sparkle and just keep twirling.
Find joy. Be joy. Enjoy.
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