Friend–> Unfollow–> Delete

When do you hit “Unfriend”?


They say variety is the spice of life but is there such a thing as too much?

**For clarity** I do not collect “friends” on any Social Media platform. I chose carefully and enjoy my chats with each one.

With that said, over the last two years, specifically, since the dumpster fire of our last election and everything that has happened since I am finding myself hitting “Unfollow” or “30-day block” on a lot of people I once considered friends.

I’m one of those weird people who like to learn and am willing to see the world through another person’s eyes if they can show it to me in a positive light, but all I am seeing is hate-speak and them questioning why I don’t follow their path of thought.

  • I don’t follow because whatever it is that you are screaming about goes against my belief system.
  • Teach don’t taunt. If you want me to view the world through your glasses then you need to make sure the picture is clean and clear.
  • If your stance is racists, sexist or any other “ist” then you can count me out. I do my best to see all people as equally as possible. Do I fall short? Of course, I do, but at least I try.

Here’s my problem, maybe you can help me- When do I just unfriend someone? Just because I don’t agree with an aspect of who this person is doesn’t mean our friendship should end, right? Should someone’s fundamental belief stop us from being friends? Like…different religions, gun control stance, political party lines, Planned Parenthood, LGBTQ Rights…are these subjects that should terminate a relationship?

I’m serious. This is a real question. I want to know what you think.

You see, I am getting to the point where I don’t want to open Facebook or Twitter or any other media because I know I am going to get inundated with a bunch of crap that most people aren’t willing to see if it’s true. No one fact checks something if it aligns with their beliefs. They hit share and spread crap around like a Rumba that scooped up dog shit. By the time you figure it out, it is spread to every corner of your house. It’s easier to burn it down than clean it up.

It’s depressing. I used social media to connect with people I don’t get to see often and to make new and interesting connections, but now I don’t want to see what they are posting. I don’t want to read the misinformation they are spreading and I am tired of trying to correct people who don’t care enough to be corrected. Would you rather be right or at peace with your friends? I am trying to be peaceful, but find it difficult when others are spreading untruths.

***Let me know your thoughts on this topic and any suggests for future posts would be much appreciated.***

Ironically, if you want to be my “friend” on Facebook you can find me here:



Author: Ticia Rani

I am...interesting. I am a writer, dreamer, mom, wife, veteran, friend, villain, and the wearer of many hats, but I don't look good in hats- go figure. I LOVE TO WRITE. I want to tell stories. I want to make you laugh, cry, and scare the crap out of you, and make you ask "why the hell did you do that?" I want to make you cheer my characters on or want to shake the crap out of them for things they say and/or do. I want to bring you along for the ride. Ready? Set?...READ!!!

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