Animosity, Enmity, Hatred, and Writing It.

Thank you for your help once again.

Definition of hate

verb (used with object), hat·ed, hat·ing.

  • to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest: to hate the enemy; to hate bigotry.
  • to be unwilling; dislike: I hate to do it.
Cancel Culture

Sadly, we all know hatred exists and holds our attention in the entertainment arena. It has allowed things like ‘cancel culture’ to reign supreme. Hate is far too prevalent and acceptable in our world today.

When I was a kid, in school, I remember rules that my 6th grade teacher had on the wall. There was a list of words that were not allowed in what she called our ‘safe space.’ Calling names was not allowed but explaining our feelings was.

Yelling, “I hate you” to someone in our class would send you to the ‘safe seat’ allowing time to feel your feelings until you can explain why you felt that way. I may have sat there a few times. Don’t judge. I hadn’t been introduced to coffee at that time.

Speaking of it is time to fill my cuppa and grab a nibble. Whatcha got in your lunch that you are willing to share? I’m having an apple. It’s a wonderful apple but…it’s an apple. The Hubs calls my meals ‘sad on a plate,’ but it’s healthy and helping in the long run. But you are free to nibble on what you wish just keep the reading rug clean. Oh! Who brought spaghetti out there last week? Geesh. I’m still cleaning up that mess. Any who – grab your copy of Creating Character Emotions by Ann Hood, a yummy,and meet us out there.

Let’s talk about ugly words and how to make them feel real on the page.

In most cases, other than some food items, hate is taught, and the actions attached as well. Racism, sexism, and any other –isms are based on taught responses. Growing up I learned to dislike other cultures but as I got older, I was able to relearn and build my own belief systems. Why did I offer you that? Well, it’s a great storyline. This is taking a character and placing them in a position where they must see something they hate in a different light.

You can even write it as an enemies-to-lovers romance story. This is a popular plotline. You turn teenaged enemies into adult lovers. It’s overcoming what was and seeing it in a different light. The bully and the nerd love story.

What’s that line?…

Seriously, if you can write one you can write the other. No kidding. You simply write the opposite. If you can write hearts and flowers, you can write sneers and punches. How horrible would your life be if you were only allowed to feel one way, forever, about someone/something?

How to write absolute dislike?  One word…divorce. You are talking about two people who once loved and honored one another to two people who will destroy each other without delay. Don’t be lazy about it. Add rage and distrust with the power needed in the words.

“I hate you.”

Yes, you can use this line but only once. After that, build on it. What does your character hate? Even if they are wrong or were misinformed. This will add to the story. Yes, you can have your characters storm away from one another but limit this action. These are lazy. Be creative in the way they hate one another. Remember the goal is to SHOW not TELL.


  • Create a list of words you can use to show a physical response to hate. Smear, squeeze, stomp, throw, break…
  • Imagine a character who hates a situation.           
    • What is the situation?
    • Why do they hate it?

Now, write a paragraph where the hated thing helps your reader understand the character better.

**Hating confined spaces because your character was trapped in a closet during a storm as a child.

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Please remember that I am not trying to write this book for you word for word. I am skipping a lot of detail. I highly suggest you purchase the book and read between the lines.

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Author: Ticia Rani

I am...interesting. I am a writer, dreamer, mom, wife, veteran, friend, villain, and the wearer of many hats, but I don't look good in hats- go figure. I LOVE TO WRITE. I want to tell stories. I want to make you laugh, cry, and scare the crap out of you, and make you ask "why the hell did you do that?" I want to make you cheer my characters on or want to shake the crap out of them for things they say and/or do. I want to bring you along for the ride. Ready? Set?...READ!!!

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