Step Three: Respect the Wisdom of the Resistance


Seriously though, these titles sound like a Star Wars spin off. Don’t they? Now that we have learned how to recognize stress and maybe, possibly, learned how to relax from stress weighing us down. We will now learn to listen to our resistance. Yup, we need to learn how to listen to the thing that is trying to stop us from writing the werds that are stuck in our heads. Sometimes we need to learn to listen to that tiny voice screaming, “Noooooooo,” at the top of their tiny little lungs. Maybe they have a very good reason to stop us. Resistance can be telling you something is off. It is the two sides of your brain, the cortex and the limbic system, clashing over what they believe is going on. Neither is wrong and sometimes it is a good idea to figure out what is happening and respect the process of resistance.

Giving my R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

“Resistance is futile!”- Sorry, I had to. You know you did it too. You can admit it. No? Maybe you went with “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me.” They both work for me. Now I have that song stuck in my head. I’ve had worse so its okay. How are you today, my friend? What is your cuppa of choice this morning? I went with a good cuppa coffee and a few pecan shortbread cookies. I can do that. I am an adult and if I want cookies for breakfast, I can have them. I also go to the gym and this is why. I’m fluffy and I know it. As we nibble on our yummies, grab your well-loved copy of Around the Writer’s Block by Rosanne Bane and join me on page 234.


The next time resistance pokes it’s head up, relax and then ask yourself these questions:

  1. What do I need to take this risk?
  2. What would reassure me in the process?
  3. What’s missing for me to move forward? Time, support, info…?
  4. What am I truly afraid of? What can I or someone else do for me to get to an acceptable level of risk to move forward?
  5. Is there something else I can do instead of this?
  6. If my resistance is valid, what am I resisting and why?

Resistance is there for a reason and the best way to move beyond it is to figure out why it is standing in the way. Listening to your resistance does not mean you are giving up on writing. It means you are trying to clear the way to get back to it.  Think of it like this. You want to go skiing but there is a ton of fresh snow in the driveway. You have to clear

Got some mad skills on the fluffy white stuff.

the driveway to go skiing. You could just sit there and stare at the snow, but it won’t get you any closer to the slopes. You clear it and you are on your way to hot cocoa by the fire and fresh new trails to blaze. Resistance is the snow. Once it is gone you are on the way to where you want to be.

Once you know what your resistance is trying to say to you, you will be ready to move on to step four, Redirect.

For those of you who are planning ahead, our next book will be…

Polish your sparkle and keep twirling.

Find joy. Be joy. Enjoy.

I’m always looking for new friends!








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Published by Ticia Rani

I am...interesting. I am a writer, dreamer, mom, wife, veteran, friend, villain, and the wearer of many hats, but I don't look good in hats- go figure. I LOVE TO WRITE. I want to tell stories. I want to make you laugh, cry, and scare the crap out of you, and make you ask "why the hell did you do that?" I want to make you cheer my characters on or want to shake the crap out of them for things they say and/or do. I want to bring you along for the ride. Ready? Set?...READ!!!

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