Airhead, Bossy, Bitchy, Bombshell, Bubbly, Ditsy, Emotional, Curvy, Frigid, Frumpy, High-maintenance, Hormonal, Hysterical, Irrational, Whiny, Working Mom…
These are just a few words that are used to only describe women. You will rarely if ever, see a male referred to as “Bubbly” because it’s not MANLY enough. Well, let me tell you something- these aren’t WOMANLY enough for us. Now, what I mean by womanly and what you mean can be two very different things.
Airhead- hmm…I know many men would fit this adjective. Why is it only reserved for women? Does it make men feel better to belittle the intelligence or child-like wonder of women? Is your manhood so tender you have to pump yourself up to feel good about yourself?
Bossy- I think they misspelled this word. I think it is L-E-A-D-E-R.
Bitchy- Let’s go with HONEST.
Bombshell- Why? Are you afraid we are gonna blow you up? Sorry, but my breasts do not look like a bombshell.
Bubbly- So as our elation diminishes do we make popping noises? That’s what bubbles do.
Ditsy & Emotional- Really? Both of these words are used to belittle our intelligence and our hearts. Tell the woman in your life that she makes bad mistakes and she may agree. She did mistake you for a good man. Tell her she is emotional and she may withhold those emotions from good. Good job, guy!
Frigid- Cold. Heartless. Mean. Nope, the word you are looking for is DISINTERESTED!
Frumpy- Why? Cuz YOU don’t like HER choice in clothes or hairstyle? Are you on the cover of GQ? Didn’t think so. Bu-bye!
Hormonal- We have them. They reek havoc on our bodies and our emotions. YOU have the ability to do the same. Quit riding my last nerve and I might be less hormonal.
Hysterical- Yup, I have the ability to lose control. Typically it occurs when I have cleaned the entire house and come back to a mess. Or, when I make an effort and it is ignored. OR…fill in the blank. We do not become hysterical without cause. Quit being the cause.
Irrational- Women think about EVERYTHING. We try to think things through to the best of our ability. We attempt to make sense of the world we have been handed and the MEN who believe they are better than us. Now, that seems irrational.
Working Mom- Do we say “Working Dad”? If he works and has children that would make him a working dad, right? Why don’t we call them that- but we call women who work outside the home “Working Mom’s”…? Surprised? Stupid.
I wonder about word choices all the time. Why do we say the things we do? Why is it acceptable to belittle another person with words. Why do we assume things about people and then place a word or a label on that belief? Why do we limit a persons skill set based on their gender?
These are a few of the things that were running through my brain while I was running in the gym. If only over-thinking burned calories- I’d be a stick figure.
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