Role Models…?

Who is your role model and why?

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Role models- those are the positive influences on your life, right? Well, I have none. It’s not that I don’t have wonderful people in my life who share their wisdom and humor- cuz I do. But, I learn more from the negative and results of poorly made decisions of others (and myself).

I was that kid that touched the stove to prove that it was, in fact, hot. I ate things that I was told I wouldn’t like to see if I wouldn’t like them. Sometimes…I liked them in spite of what people told me. This is why I push a little harder than I should in some aspects of my life.

Role models are just people who have done stuff you think is cool. Why can’t you do stuff you think is cool without their prompting? I wanted to write a book so I wrote a couple. I wanted to join the military when I was younger so I did. I wanted to see Niagra Falls, I wanted to travel the world, I wanted…so I did. I didn’t need a role model to show me that I could.

The anti-role models in my life showed me how I did NOT want to live. I don’t want to be surrounded by negativity- so I’m not. I don’t want to be the person that causes others to groan when I walk into the room. I don’t want people to fear me. These are the anti-role models I had. I knew the sound of my mother’s truck from four houses away. My stomach would start to churn a half an hour before she was due home from work. I held my breath wondering what kind of mood I would be subjected to every day. I lived the way I refuse to live today.

I am my own role model. I know how I want to live and what I want to do with my life. Can others give me good ideas or suggest things for me to try? Absolutely! But I don’t want to live a life that can be compared to someone else. We tell each other that we are unique and special but them ask who their role model is. Aren’t those two things opposing ideas? You are unique but be like someone else…?

Besides, I see who people are choosing their role models today and it makes me cringe. “OMG! Did you see Kim K’s outfit! ***gasp*** I want to be just like her.”

You do realize her fame is based on a leaked sex tape, right?

People are choosing who they want to emulate based on the level of fame that individual has. Am I against fame- NOPE! I would love to be a famous author whose books have an impact on the world. Duh. But that’s not the case. In today’s world, it is based on your butt size, of how many vulgar words you can get into your lyrics, or do music videos swinging on a giant ball naked…these are today’s role models and that scares the shit out of me.

When did it become UNcool to admire someone for the good they do?

Audrey Hepburn was more than an actress and singer. She was a humanitarian.

Malala Yousifazi is an activist for female rights and female education in the Middle East.

Bill Gates founded the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation to tackle global problems often ignored by governments and corporations.

Neil Degrasse Tyson is an American Astrophysicist, author and science communicator.

JK Rowling came from less than nothing to create a story that brought people back to the love of reading.

Ellen DeGeneres is kind, caring, charitable, and funny. She stands up for what she believes is right.

Albert Einstein, Martin Luther King, Stephen Hawking, Ghandi…and the list could go on for hours.

There are so many amazing people in the world who could light the way of our future, but so many choose to follow shallow, self-centered individuals as the model for their lives.

I’ll stick with being true to me and finding happiness in my own way.




Author: Ticia Rani

I am...interesting. I am a writer, dreamer, mom, wife, veteran, friend, villain, and the wearer of many hats, but I don't look good in hats- go figure. I LOVE TO WRITE. I want to tell stories. I want to make you laugh, cry, and scare the crap out of you, and make you ask "why the hell did you do that?" I want to make you cheer my characters on or want to shake the crap out of them for things they say and/or do. I want to bring you along for the ride. Ready? Set?...READ!!!

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